well,to feel guilty or not guilty, it all depends on which angle you look at the issue.
From religion point of view, it is obvious that it is wrong and if you are a true follower of the teaching, definetely you will feel guilty.
But, the Q everybody is asking is that is it wrong to have sex with the one you love? Is it not natural that when a relationship develop and reach a stage when you want to feel intimate and the warm of your love one and eventually lead to sex?
So, do you need to feel guilty in this case?

I understand the emotional feelings invoulved here, and love is one if not the most powerful of them all. However I must say that it takes all the will power one can muster to no givein to this emotion. A lot of times we do, however the thing to remember is this. Even though we commit this sin when we become enlightened in the Word of God, the most important thing to remember is " we must REPENT " and ask for forgiveness of that sin. Until we do we'er held accountable and should feel guilty.

Not guilty. Having sex as prescribed by God is not a transgression of divine law. If you were having sex in a bed before you were married, then it is not the marriage bed in which it could have become defiled. Once married and engaging in behavior other than God intended, such as engaging in behavior that would transgress God's laws concerning such things, such as having a threesome with your wife's mother or sister, or engaging in homosexual activity, would then defile the marriage bed. Nothing that a married couple do together as man and wife in bed can be considered defiling.

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As far as the marriage bed is concerned I agree. It takes a sharp eye to see the difference. Of course this are is a two part question being asked here, the latter being well answered. Your point is well taken. This question of the marriage bed is improperly stated here and this writer apologizes for the error. Moving onto part1, about pre marital sex, according to 1Cor.7:1 and 1Thes.4:3, Acts15:20, 29,1Cor.5:1,6:13,18-20. The key words in these scriptures are and . To lust after a woman in your heart is to have had sex with her, and this is wrong. This is given by the Apostle Paul in his writings. So we are all guilty wheather we admit it or not.

There is great wisdom in abstaning before marriage. The problem I see is that people get TOO emotionally and physically involved and it leads to sex if they don't pull HARD on the reigns. They start a fire that burns out of control. I think on this if you have had sex before marriage one question I would ask, how many times were 'in the moment?' Many young people do not realize the damage that is done when they lose their virginity. Physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Just my thoughts at this time.

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Good Topic though

Now that is a great attitude and advice to others who have doubts about the question. I applaud and tip my hat to your comments. Your points are well taken and factual. Listen up young folks ! Wisdom is being shared, take it and run. This isn't chastisement of people young or old, just information. Its valuable. Your comments are greatly appreciated. Hope you'll recommend this blog to a friend.

Good Topic though

No it's not, it's a completely recycled topic that has been hopelessly debated forever.

I think of the analogy of duct tape when I hear this issue come up from time to time.

When we get intimate way before we should because we are to young, immature, or emotionally not in a good place it's similar to putting duct tape around our arm. It sticks really well but when the relationship ends it's like that duct tape gets ripped off. It hurts and takes pieces of our skin and hair with it.

When the next partner enters into our lives, we again put that duct tape back on. It fits fairly snugly still but not like it did the first time. When this relationship ends, off goes the tape. It still hurts but not nearly as much as the first time. Again the process may be repeated and with each time the tape doesn't stick quite as well with each go round. When we put the tape on again and again, we have leftover skin and hair from past adhesions making it stick less and less.

I believe by doing all this we bring all those past experiences with us into our marriages and it's not beneficial at all and in fact can be quite harmful not to mention not sticking like it should.

Sons of Thunder. About 1 Corinthians 7: 1&2. The words "ye wrote" in the first verse deals specifically with the Corinthians having written a letter, but carefully avoided any reference to the disorders among themselves. These had been reported by the members of Chloe's family (1-11&12), and the scandal referred to in ch.5 was a common report, which was perhaps made known by Stephanas and others, ch16, v 17.
The one important thing to remember is that once one repents and no longer engages in the particular transgression, it is forgiven and your slate is once again wiped clean. Remember also, that one can be forgiven 490 times a day, and no one I know of can fornicate that many times in a day.
Rest easy....Rest in Christ.

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I'm not really certain how the bible or spiritual scriptures define "marriage". It's my understanding that marriage is a spiritual contract between 2 people that love each other, whom ask GOD to bless that relationship. It seems odd to me that GOD would insist on a religious or leagal ceremony to consecrate a marriage.

I was taught that the "church" was in my heart. If my partner and I promise to live together the way we believe GOD wants us to, and ask HIM to bless our relationship, are we not married?

Since when have men had the right to judge our spiritual relationships with other people let alone our relationship with GOD?

So in order to answer, I suppose I need to know how we define marriage under these circumstances as well as who actually defines "marriage".


Additionally, I would be more concerned with divorce rather than judging marriage. I understand divorce to be the ending of the union a couple has asked GOD to bless. This to me seems more of a transgression, and far more noticable.

Guilty. But funny thing is I don't feel guilty.
And I know I should because sex is really such a filthy thing, you know.

It's really filthy when you do it in the mud right after a hard rain.

This maybe a recycled topic, however it does have an anawer wheather we choose to accept it or not. I speak of the Holy Scriptures as I'm sure you're aware. This is a topic of discussion where wisdom will be shared and gained. Thanks.

This is a topic of discussion where wisdom will be shared and gained.

I'm always in favor of that. Seriously, how come when the subject of Holy Scripture comes up it always seems to come up in a context to make one feel bad about one's self? I mean, I KNOW I'm a sinner and fall WAY short of the glory of God and all that, but c'mon! My take on the matter is to leave the past in the past and don't look back feeling all bad about yourself just because back in the day you got some. Sure, to abstain from premarital sex may be a moral virtue. But let's forgive ourselves and move on with the memory that it was fun while it lasted!

Just my 2 cents...